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Somebody once told me that: "Finding the right person is very hard and very wrong... it is best to be the right person for the one you love and start
from there...you'll always end up disappointed when you set standards and define a "right person" for you...and don't rush things coz
somewhere somehow God is preparing somebody for you."

Don't be in a hurry to get into a relationship because you can never find love if you insist that you are already into it. Try to find time to really
understand your real feelings, to know who you really are, and what you really want in a relationship. You're right, there's no such thing as
a perfect relationship, but there's a compatible partnership that goes along with it. If you already knew that you're too big to fit into a small sized t-shirt, don't give it a try. You'll probably break it and pay for the damages you have made.

If you knew and felt that the relationship will not last, don't go deeper into it. You'll just suffer the consequences and live like hell for the rest of your
life. It's really hard to say goodbye though, but you can't make it any better by just pretending you still have the same feelings. Try to let go and give
yourself a chance to live life to the fullest. Give yourself a chance to grow and give your heart a much needed attention. Then you will find that you
have made the right decision and you made it all by yourself. We call it love when we can't leave someone and see them crying as we try to let go.
We are wrong, it's just pity. We call it love when we're too attached and think that losing the one we love will somehow make us weak and unable
to face the storms of life. We misunderstood; it’s just that we're too much dependent to them. We call it love when we give our whole life to them, the
wholeness of us and imagined that if they leave, no one would accept us and our past. We are mistaken, its just insecurity. But no matter what the
definition is, the truth still remains that love isn't something you can buy or beg. It is real and existing. You can't touch it but you can feel it in
your heart. You can't find it, but it will knock before you when you least expect it to come. It can make you the happiest soul in heaven, but don't forget
that it can also make you the most miserable person in the whole galaxy...

He Doesn't Love You Enough


During what women believe to be the start of a
budding romance, certainty about where the
relationship is going is never questioned. To
us, "it's in the bag" without necessarily saying
this out loud.

He calls, he tells me, he misses me, asks me out
often, is relentlessly sweet and thoughtful. I
am always on cloud nine and unapologetically
unable to wipe the grin off my face. I am in
love with him and although he hasn't said so
yet, I am sure he loves me back.

Herein lies the tragedy.

With men, until he hasn't asked you to be his
girlfriend, you are not on safe ground. No
matter how few the minutes are between his text
messages or his phone calls, even if he has
tried to hold your hand, carefully pick off the
eyelash from under your eye, and wipe the crumb
that was perched on your upper lip, assume that
he just wants to be friends. Assume otherwise
and you'll be in for a great big heartbreak. I
am not trying to build a community of skeptics
andcynics through this column but to warn all
the women out there to tread the waters
carefully before jumping in. I am your willing
guide in your journey through the abyss of
relationship. I have been the confidante of so
many men all these years that I know how their
minds work. I know what they'll do next. I know
what they want...because they tell me.

Men are almost formulaic- especially those who
have remained single after 25. When faced with
the same given in the same situation, no matter
where they come from, they will all do the same
thing.

Enter the questions women love to ask: (1) Why
hasn't he called me the past few days? (2) If he
likes being with me so much, why doesn't he
leave his girlfriend/wife for me? As much as we
would like to fall back into thinking that men
are idiots and need a little shove into the
right direction, I advise you to please keep
your hands where they are. Do not text, call or
make a bigger fool of yourself. There is just
one answer to all three questions: he doesn't
love you enough.

Let's take each situation one at a time. He
hasn't called you the past few days... Women
will immediately assume that something's wrong.
His cellphone is off, he is sick, he got into an
accident, he's upset with me etc. We spend hours
trying to think of what could possibly be
preventing him from calling us. Once we come up
with the most logical answer, e.g. he is sick,
we decide to text him. We say to
ourselves, "okay lang for me to text him, at
least he'll think that I care about him and that
I'm thoughtful. Plus, once lang naman to e.
After this, i'll never initiate texting." More
brazen women ould come right out, all the guy
and ask, "Why haven't you called me?" Whenever
my women friends tell me they did this, I
visibly cringe and have to stop myself from
hitting them over the head.

You see, men's initial feelings for a woman are
not usually carved in stone. How they feel about
you is very much like writing on the sand. You
have to be careful so that they don't change
their minds about you. My guy friends who
confide in me (voluntarily) have the same facial
statement when they tell me about the girl who
asked them that question, "Why haven't you
called me?" They look like they have the heebie-
jeebies.

They freak out and are this close to complaining
about this. They haven't called you because they
don't feel like it. They might feel like it
later but at the moment they don't so they
won't. They are aware you exist and don't need
you to remind them about it. They will let your
first call go this time but already, they are
leaning toward " not feeling like calling you"
on a long-term basis. Do you want that? I don't
think so. They also tell me that men are
entitled to change their minds the way women do.
They are also flaky and "not sure" all the time,

He hasn't left his girlfriend or his wife for
you. Sometimes men are looking for icing on the
cake in the form of a woman friend who plugs in
all the gaps that his better half cannot fill.
She is usually somebody with slightly different
qualities than his mate. He enjoys being with
her, calls her all the time, consults with her
about life-altering decisions but does not
really come out and make a decision about who he
wants to be with simply because he is in a "safe
place." He has the best of both worlds and
doesn't need to make a choice. If he hasn't left
her for you yet, chances are, he won't.

Telltale signs: she is still his priority. When
she calls and asks him to pick her up, he
hurriedly finishes his meal and tells you that
he has to go. When you ask him out on days when
he has to take her home, he'll say he can't. You
notice that you are only together when his
schedule permits it and when seeing you doesn't
conflict with his time with her. You get the
crumbs. This kind of arrangement only tells you
that he doesn't love you enough to forsake his
girlfriend for you. If he takes a chance by
leaving her for you, you're sure that he loves
you.

Most men would stay with the safe, the tried and
tested over risking everything. It takes a lot
for them to, believe me. Obviously, you don't
want to be second best or the pangtawid-gutom.

Find someone who will make you his only
priority. Although they pretend and seem
otherwise, men are not idiots when it comes to
matters of the heart. They know full well what
they want out of the relationship. They do not
need to be rescued by you. They don't need
hints, carefully crafted text messages or
highway billboards that promise them a bed of
roses with you. If they really like you, they
will do anything to get you to like them back.
You just have to sit there and wait for your
nails to dry.

Trust me. I can get enough signatures from the
creeps to validate this.

A really wise girl once told me:
"Love like you've never been hurt,
Dance as if no one's watching?
Make friends as if you've never had foes.
Play like an MVP even if you're all alone."
Hmmm? makes sense.

When You FALL IN LOVE
(Debunking the Myths That Are Driving You Crazy)

By: Bo Sanchez

This article isn't for teenagers only.

Falling in love happens to the young and the not-so-young. (Did you see 42-year-old Tom Cruise jump up and down Oprah's couch because of Katie?)

It happens to everyone. Fat, thin, tall, short, intelligent, uneducated, holy, not so holy, dark, white, yellow, green... it doesn't really matter.
All of us fall in love.
And we get stuck in myths that drive us absolutely crazy.
My goal is to debunk these myths and convince you not to believe in them.
Let's begin..........


MYTH 1: LOVE WILL CONQUER ALL

Let me qualify.
This is such a tricky myth. Because love ----- as defined by the Bible ------ will conquer all. But love ------ as defined by glazed-eyed lovers ----- will not.

If you believe in this myth, you might do the following:

You overlook major obstacles in your relationship.

Everyone you know is wondering why you chose that creature from outer space as your boyfriend. Your bestfriends are telling you to get rid of him. Your family is telling you to throw him out of a running vehicle. Aling Rosa of the sari-sari store across the street is telling you to lace his drink with poison.

But you won't --------- because you're in love. That's why there are songs entitled, "you and me against the world"
Your bestbuds comment, 'but he's been jobless for the past three years!"
And you say, "He's free-spirited. He feels boxed in when he's in the office. '(in other words, he's undisciplined, lazy bum.)
Your officemates say, 'He flirts with other women constantly!' and you say, 'No, he's just friendly.' (in other words, he's a pervert)
Your cousins say, 'He's taking drugs, He's got needle marks all over his arm. And you say, 'No, he's into cross stitching.'

You overstay in toxic relationships, believing that your love will change him.

The wedding doesn't transform anyone.
Even if three Popes officiate the wedding.
The person you'll march with into the church will be the same person you'll march with out of the church. He doesn't change one bit.
In fact, the marriage makes the hidden more obvious.
If he was selfish before he got married, he will be even more selfish after the wedding. If he was hypercritical before he got married, he'll even be more vile and prolific with his criticisms after wedding.
Here's the truth : You need more than feelings of love to make a relationship work. You need mature character, total commitment and a minimum level of compatibility.
Especially compatibility in the area of values and mission in life. I hear people say, 'We're compatible. Our names begin with the same letter J. My name is Julie and his name is Julio. We're both born in July."
Wow. That's so deep, I want to cry.

MYTH 2 : WHEN IT"S TRUE LOVE YOU WILL KNOW THE MOMENT YOU MEET THE OTHER PERSON

I'm sure you've had this experience before.
You are in a crowded room. You're surrounded by boring, noisy chatter when, suddenly, this gorgeous guy enters the door.
Your eyes meet.
Instantly, time stands still. The universe grinds to a halt. Except for this attractive man in front of you, everything in your vision becomes a giant blur. The hubbub of the crowd becomes a soft muffle and, from out of nowhere, you here gentle violin music from the background.
One week later, he's your boyfriend.
A few weeks later, you discover that your boyfriend's a pathological liar, buried in credit card debt, borrows money from all his girlfriends (you're his eight in six months).
Your mind says, 'Dump him'
Your heart says, 'But it was love at first sight!'
Here are the consequences ...

You become so focused on the magical first moment, you become blind to the dark side of the relationship.
Six out of seven days, you're fighting with your boyfriend.
But you can't give him up because you met each other in such a magical moment. Your car keys fell and he picked it up, and then your eyes met, you smelled his deodorant, and you dropped your keys again ......How can you not be meant for each other?

You become a love-at-first-sight junkie that you could miss out on the 'real thing'.
One intelligent woman told me, 'Bo, there's this guy who's courting me. He's okay. He's kind, he's responsible, he has a good job.......'
"I could hear a 'but' coming ," I said.
'but there are no sparks!" she bit her lip.
"No violin music playing in the background huh"
"none. When I see him, the background music I hear is lululalu-lalulalulalei..."
"listen. You don't need a magical first moment to meet our potential husband. The important things are mature character, financial responsibility, ability for commitment, compatible mission and values..."
I actually met this girl again on her wedding, and before she marched down the aisle, she whispered to me, "Do you hear the violin music, Bo? It's loud and clear."
It doesn't have to be love at first sight.
In fact, marriages with the least adjustments are those between friends who've known each other for years before they realize that they're good marriage material.
What is love at first sight?
Many times, it's lust at first sight. Or infatuation at first sight.
Don't give it too much weight.
Here's the truth: it takes a moment to experience infatuation but true love takes a lifetime.

MYTH 3 : IF IT IS TRUE LOVE YOU WILL FEEL THIS WAY FOR EACH OTHER FOREVER

No, you won't. Here are the consequences for believing this myth :

You panic when the feelings wane, and wonder whether the marriage is over and whether you really loved one another in the first place.
Imagine the night of your honeymoon.
Your new bride is sleeping. The cotton curtains are gently swaying in the cool breeze. You gaze at her lovely face. You study her soft cheeks. Her long eyelashes. Her beautiful nose, her parted red lips.
And all of a sudden, she snores.
"Ngggggggooork"
How do you react? Because it's your honeymoon, you say, 'How cute.'
Six months down the road, the same scene transpires. Your wife is sleeping. And the same cotton curtains are gently swaying in the cool breeze.
And you hear her snore.
"Ngggggoork."
What do you say?
"Ssssssheeeesh, Honey! You sound like a boat!'
What has happened? The feelings have gone. Let me say this: 'That's normal. It happens to everyone. But it doesn't mean your love is gone so don't panic!
You can make a decision to love the snoring boat.

You start blaming your partner for the loss of love
This is nutty.
But many people do it: when we don't feel in love, we think it's the fault of the other person. And so we fight him.
Again, we fall out of love because we're human beings.
It's nobody's fault.
The moment you fall out of love, the real work begins .
Let me explain.
This is the most important point I'm going to make. (I got this from Scott Peck in his bestseller book, The Road Less traveled)

Falling in love isn't love
Here's why. When you fall in love.....

a. No decision is required. Falling in love just happens.

b. No effort is required. Falling in love is like.... Well, falling.

c. No hard work is required. Falling in love is being bitten by the love bug.

On the other hand, true love requires all three : Decision, effort and lots of hard work. In the Bible, love is a command. You make it happen.
Sure true love can only happen after you've fallen out of love.
When you begin choosing to love, even if you don't feel like doing it ---- that's true love. And that's the foundation of a lasting marriage.


MYTH 4: YOUR PARTNER WILL FULFILL YOU COMPLETELY

Again because falling in love satisfied you completely ----- you want the same satisfaction to last. No it won't.
Consequence? You might fail to recognize a good relationship because your partner isn't fulfilling the needs you should be fulfilling yourself.
Here's the truth: the right partner will fulfill many of your needs but not all of them . There are just some things your husband can't give you: you're self-worth. Your spirituality. Your inner happiness. These are things you have to work on your own.
I've met lots of people who think they're dissatisfied with their marriage. In reality, they're dissatisfied with themselves.
I've met lots of people who think they're bored with their marriages. And they complain to the high heavens how boring their husband or wife is ---- when in truth, they're really bored with life.
Meet your own needs. Find your happiness in God. Find your niche, your calling, your destiny. And then share your joy with your spouse.

MYTH 5: IF IT'S TRUE LOVE YOU WON'T BE ATTRACTED TO ANYONE ELSE

If you believe in this myth, you panic when you get attracted to someone else, questioning the authenticity of your love for your spouse.
One man told me, 'Bo, I love my wife. Or I thought I did. But then I met this woman at work. She has nice make-up. She smells nice. She wears a pencil-cut skirt. When I go home, my wife is wearing a drab rag. Her hair is undone. She smells of vinegar. Gosh I am attracted to this girl at work."
Being attracted to someone is normal ----- even if you have a happy marriage. But being attracted doesn't mean falling into adultery.
Every time you think of the other woman, discipline your heart and say, 'Home, boy, Home!' and escort your heart back to your wife. Because if you feed your attraction with fantasies and constantly think about the other woman, it grows . But if you starve your attraction, it dies a natural death.

When boys become girls' bestfriends
By Pamela Angela Salomon Pastor
Inquirer News Service

CONTRARY to the popular belief that men cannot have purely platonic
relationships with women, today more and more females have found best
friends in their male counterparts.

We all know that women outnumber men. So why can't women stick to
tradition and just giggle with their girlfriends? Let me tell you why:

While most guys are terrible at being good boyfriends, they can
actually be great friends. Without the stress of jealousy,
commitment, looming anniversaries and other dates that should-never-
be-not-even-once forgotten, women and men can have pretty good
relationships.

They're not afraid to get their hands dirty. While most women squeal
when being splattered with mud, men like rolling in it. They don't
worry about ruining their manicure or getting dabbed with spaghetti
sauce on their shirt. They're more relaxed, less conscious.That makes
them more fun.

They don't spend too much time going on bathroom breaks.

They don't constantly complain that they're getting fat.

They think like guys. How else will you be able to dissect the head
of that guy you've been drooling for without your male best friend's
analysis of the situation? How will you snag Mr. Perfect without his
guidance? Your male best friend knows what and how guys think. He is
one.

They give great advice. While women tend to be more flowery with
words, men tell it as it is (unless of course, they are in the middle
of courtship or are trying to sweet talk girls into something). They
jolt you back to reality.

You feel protected. Now I do not mean that women are weak, weak
creatures. I am a feminist myself. But it's nice to know that if
someone starts beating you up, your male best friend will be there to
help you cream them.

They act like b ig brothers. They warn you about no-good idiots who
are after you. But of course, they're actually all big babies, which
brings us to the next reason: You can mother them. Let's face it.
Men - whether they're 16 or 60 - are kids. It's a given fact.

They don't fall in love with guys. How many friendships have been
ruined because of pals going after the same guy? Countless. This will
never happen between you and your male best friend to each his own.

They're not afraid of calories. For most girls, pigging out is
unheard of. Guys live for buffets and enjoy food more. That makes
them great companions for eating out.

They don't like boybands. (Most of them, anyway.)(HAHAHAHAHA!!!!!!)

They're sweet.

They don't shriek or scream.

You can be yourself. Forget about crossing your legs and dabbing at
your little mouth with a napkin. You can relax and chill and do
whatever you want. You can be a guy with them.

They don't get PMS (pre-menstrual syndrome) ever.

They don't talk about getting married at least, not to you.

They're not too clingy.

They won't get mad when your phone is busy. Then again, in this day
and age when almost everyone has call-waiting, who does?

They share your love for computers and passion for the Internet.

You can talk about the NBA and not just about how cute the
players are.

They don't easily freak out. They can handle gory and morbid
stuff. They don't get terrified.

Their parents are not strict with them. Unlike most girls, they
don't have curfews and can do what they want when they want to.
That means more time for you to hang out.

But, of course, like everything else in this world, having boy
buds also has its downside. Here are a few: Their girlfriends get
jealous of you. Admit it, sometimes us girls can be pretty
unreasonable. Some females would not be 100% comfortable with the
ide a that you are hanging out with her guy a lot.

They forget you're a girl. They have been calling you "dude" for
such a long time that they have forgotten your gender. This is
why you hear your guy friend say, "Whoa!" when he sees you all
dressed and made up. This is why they think its okay to salivate
over other girls and comment on their bodies when you're around.

This is the reason they tell disgusting jokes and expect you to laugh
with them. Don't expect them to open doors for you and yes, don't
expect them to carry your things. And unless you start wearing skirts
to show off your legs, it will probably take a bump on their heads to
remember you're a girl. (annie? hehehe)

They can be pretty obnoxious. They can rattle off endless curse words
for minutes. They can tell sexist jokes and can be pretty sarcastic
at times. But once you sharpen your tongue and prepare your own
vocabulary of insults, you may just beat them at their o wn game.

Sometimes, they can take you for granted. You have been with them so
long that they expect you to hang around forever. If they blow off
your plans because they suddenly got a date with some hot chick, they
expect you to grin and bear it. If they ask you to befriend this girl
they have got the hots for so they can get on her good side, they
expect you to do it for them, even if you hate her guts. Lets face
it. Most men really need a dose of sensitivity.

You may end up as a girlfriend substitute. This happens a lot,
especially with males who are afraid of commitment. You end up going
to his prom or to his all-important office function as his date. He
introduces you to his parents just to stop them from asking about his
almost non-existent dating status. He finds security in your
friendship and seeks comfort in your companionship. You become his
ultimate excuse for not going out with other women.

You have to endure their burping contests. And when you tell them to
say, "Excuse me," you get chided for being too prude. They may scare
away boys that you like. Having other boys around you all the time
may cause a hottie to think twice about asking you out especially if
he's the type that scares easily. One, he may think that any of the
guys are more than just a friend. Two, even if they are just your
friends, he probably knows that if he screws up and hurts you, he's
going to be in trouble. Then again, why should this bother you? If
the potential boyfriend cannot even stand up and face your friends,
how can you expect him to be strong when it is needed?

Your boyfriend can get jealous of them. In the same way that their
girls do not appreciate your presence, your guy might not like the
idea of you hanging out with your close male buds. The male ego is a
very, very sensitive thing, more so if the owner dotes on it. As bad
as this sounds, sometimes, it boils down to a difficult choice by our
boyfriend or your boy-friends?

They can dump you when their girlfriends get too jealous. Since you
are expected to always be the perfect and understanding friend, they
don think you're going to mind if they stop hanging out with
you. "She doesn't understand why we have to go out and watch movies
when I can do it with her." But you've got to understand the guy.
He's probably pretty sick of hearing her whine, "Why is she texting
you again? Doesn't she have any other friends?" and "What! You're
going out again? But you just went out with her last week!" And just
in case that particular relationships ends, they expect to be able to
pick up from where they left and resume the friendship like nothing
happened. Yes, friends make sacrifices, even hard ones.

They can fall in love with you. If I get a peso for every single time
this has happened in history, I can probably buy that Ford F150 now.
Unl ess you feel the same way about your guy friend and you want the
friendship to become more than just that, the situation may not be
pretty. Either you forget about it and laugh about it when you get
older or your friendship goes ka-put. Definitely not a good way to
end things.

And lastly, there's always that bit of possibility... You might end
up falling in love with them. =)(??????)

very tired...

always working...

only thing for my day to brighten is reading VM stories my favorite authors writes!!!

I'M A VERONICA MARS FAN THROUGH AND THROUGH!!!!

i'm new here! i'm a veronica and logan fanatic...i love to read almost all the fics about LoVe...but mostly i love the fluffy stories!...what can i say i'm a hopeless romantic! a marshmallow!hihi!...i dunno if i can write like the others do...i do have many ideas running in my head i just can't seem to make myself write them because i don't know how to start...its my bday today so happy birthday to me! :D